DARVO
What DARVO stands for, how psychologist Jennifer Freyd described it, what the research shows about its effects and how to keep your…
Communication
Guilt tripping
Feeling heavy and obligated after a conversation? Here is what guilt tripping means, how it differs from honest hurt and how to…
Emotional flooding
If your mind goes blank or your temper spikes mid-argument, you may be flooded. Here is what is happening in your body…
Defense mechanisms
From denial to humor, defense mechanisms are how the mind protects itself. Here is where the idea came from, the main types…
I-statements
Swapping 'you always' for 'I feel' can change how an argument goes. Here are I-statement examples, the basic formula and the traps…
The Four Horsemen
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling: what John and Julie Gottman's four conflict patterns sound like at home, and the antidote for each…
Double bind
The no-win message you cannot question or escape: where the idea came from, what it got wrong, and why it still explains…
Interdependence
If you want closeness without losing yourself, this explains interdependence and how it looks in everyday life together.
Emotional dysregulation
Emotions that go from calm to overwhelming in seconds, or that take hours to settle. Here is what emotional dysregulation means, without…
Love languages
A popular way to talk about giving and receiving care, with an honest look at what the science does and does not…
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