Bids for connection
Small comments, sighs and shared jokes can be quiet invitations to connect. Here is how to notice them and why responding matters.
Marriage
Contempt
What contempt sounds and looks like between partners, why Gottman research singles it out and how couples rebuild respect once it has…
Nervous system regulation
Behind the trendy phrase is something useful: ways to help your body settle so you can think and connect. Here is what…
Demand-withdraw pattern
If one of you keeps pushing to talk and the other keeps pulling away, you may be caught in one of the…
Dead bedroom
If physical intimacy has quietly disappeared from your relationship, you are not alone, and it is often more workable than it feels.
Nonviolent communication
Nonviolent communication gives you four steps for saying hard things without blame. Here is how it works, with examples, and what the…
Differentiation of self
Murray Bowen's idea of staying close to the people you love without losing yourself, explained in plain language with everyday family examples.
Emotional dysregulation
Emotions that go from calm to overwhelming in seconds, or that take hours to settle. Here is what emotional dysregulation means, without…
Passive-aggressive behavior
The sigh, the 'I'm fine,' the dishes left on purpose. Here is what passive-aggressive behavior means and how to turn it into…
Emotional flooding
If your mind goes blank or your temper spikes mid-argument, you may be flooded. Here is what is happening in your body…
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